While it's true that you belong to all your social groups, you're the only person in the world who does. Each other member of any group does not belong to your other groups. Sooner or later, your social groups are going to clash and you're going to get burned.
Sooner or later, your social groups are going to clash. That line is right on and so is the rest of this article by Mike Elgan (click the computerworld link to read the full article). I've now been through all 5 stages of the "Facebook grief" he describes, the fifth stage very recently. I was at the point where I seriously considered deleting my individual Facebook account and using just Twitter and this blog because my networks clashed. I posted something that was funny to my non-work friends yet a few of my work-friends thought it inappropriate. I thought: maybe I'll open up a fan page and just make it pure business. Actually, I do have a semi-hidden page like that sitting out there just in case I want to use it. And while I was mulling this over, I was in the 5th stage of grief.
If I shut down my main Facebook account and use just a "page", some of the 1300+ connections might not follow to the new page. But is this good? Is slimming down to just the truly meaningful connections a positive? What if one of those people never interacts with me but often follows the activity? Would I lose a connection and possible future business?
These are questions I think all of my Realtor students have to ask themselves as well. Ultimately, the solution for me at this point is to put everyone into categories that more closely mirror my real world networks. That way I can pick and choose who sees and hears what...just as we all do in person. I do have one suggestion; do this before you get to 1300 connections!
Those of you who know me really well know that I don't change who I am. Not. For. Anyone. Sometimes I curse or tell a sick joke and I'll continue to be myself on Facebook. Except now, I'm going to control who sees it! It's like we say in BOLD: Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. I'm starting to emerge from my Facebook grief...we'll see how long it lasts!
*I'm curious if you have any stories. What have you done to keep yourself from sending the wrong information out to people. Have you put people in groups like you do your contact database? Please leave your comments in the comment section.